Love can be very confusing, especially in the modern day world. However, it’s very simplified when you look at it from a Buddhist perspective!
Love is so extremely complicated but so simple at the same time! Love is generally a simple subject but we have complicated it beyond belief. Nobody really knows what they want, love is rarely appreciated nowadays, and people use and abuse each other until they find someone new to move onto. This just completely defeats the point of love!
Many of us are struggling with love in recent times and it’s extremely understandable! There are so many conniving, selfish, and manipulating people out there it is hard to find someone that is real. However, if you’re having a difficult time with love, you might benefit from looking at it from a Buddhist perspective! According to Buddhism, there are only four components of true love. You can see them below.
Maitri is the component of love and kindness. It is the desire to share happiness with someone else. You offer happiness in anything you can do for the other person. Not for the credit, but for the genuine purpose of making life better for someone else.
Karuna is compassion. It is being able to relate to your others needs, feelings, and desires. It’s the desire to want to remove suffering from the other person. In love, you can’t help but to want to make everything better for the other person.
Mudita is joyfulness, happiness, and contentedness. It is translated as the desire to bring joy to the people around you. When you love someone you are so fulfilled that you want to bring joy to everyone, especially that special person.
Upeksha is the desire to accept everything, not discriminating against any one quality or characteristic. It is accepting all of the good and bad of your partner no matter what. You do this instinctively because you have such a grounded appreciation for everything that makes up who they are.