There are many things that separate narcissists and other toxic people from what we consider to be ‘good men.’ These things are really important to be aware of since most narcissists are, as I like to call them ‘wolves in sheep’s clothing.
Narcissists will start off as the perfect man. They will come in and sweep you off your feet. They will treat you like you hung the moon in the sky and tell you that you are all they ever need in life but they are lying. People like this are only looking to use you for their own gain. Narcissists may be charming and come off as perfect in the beginning but as time goes by their mask will come off and you will see them for who and what they truly are.
I know what it is like to fall victim to a narcissist and it fucking sucks. A relationship with a narcissist is one of the most toxic kinds of relationships a person can have. Below you will find a list of things you will find in a ‘good man’ that you will never be able to have if you stay in a relationship with a narcissist.
You deserve all of these things. If you are in a toxic relationship, please consider doing what is best for you. Your wellbeing is important and you have a life that needs to be lived.
12 Things Good Men Do That Narcissists Can’t Ever Offer You:
1. A good man will listen to you when you feel something needs to be said.
He won’t cut you off and ignore you when something is bothering you. When you are upset he will be there to hear you out regardless of how ‘silly’ he thinks the reasoning is. Sure, it is hard sometimes to really hear someone out if they are saying something you don’t want to hear but if he is able to do that for you then you have found a really good one.
2. A good man will not be a dick to you for no reason.
He isn’t going to come home being an asshole for no reason. He is not someone who takes his stress out on you. If he comes home in a bad mood he will let you know that he had a bad day and apologize if he seems out of place in how he is acting. This is something you will do as well if you really care about this person in the ways he cares for you.
3. A good man is humble and doesn’t brag.
Being humble is not as hard as a lot of people make it out to be. Narcissists will brag about any and everything. They will literally never let you hear the end of it but a good man is someone that will underplay his achievements. Sure, you will be proud of his accomplishments but he isn’t one to want to even celebrate.
4. A good man supports you no matter what it is you want to do.
While sometimes he may not agree with the things you want to do, he will still push you if it is something you really want to do. He is not going to hold you back. He knows how strong you are and how much you can accomplish in life if you put your mind to it.
5. A good man will apologize when he ends up being wrong.
A good man is going to say sorry when he knows he has made a mistake or when he is wrong. You do this and expect it in return. A narcissist would never do this.
6. A good man will be positive no matter the situation within reason.
He is going to be positive even when times are hard. He knows that he is your rock and that you have to be there for each other. Sure, sometimes people get too far down and need a little pick me up and that is fine but for the most part being positive is a big part of your relationship.
7. A good man won’t use your emotions against you.
He isn’t going to try to make you feel upset over nothing like the narcissist would. He is going to be there and wants you to feel good about yourself and your life in general. Narcissists use your emotions to break you down where-as good men will always want you to be happy.
8. A good man is not afraid to tell you how he feels.
He is not going to lie to you when something is bothering him. If he needs to say something it is going to be said. He may not want to upset you but he does want you to know the truth when it needs to be said.
9. A good man will not give you a reason to stop trusting him.
He will always be honest with you. You aren’t going to have to worry about him cheating or leaving you. Everything is as it should be and you can trust one another.
10. A good man will be there for you when you need him.
He will not abandon you during rough times. When something bad happens, he is right there beside you. If you need him you can call him at any hour.
11. A good man will make you feel beautiful all the time.
He won’t put you down like a narcissist will. He will be kind to you and make sure you know how beautiful you are. When you put yourself down, he builds you right back up.
12. A good man will respect you and your boundaries.
He will respect you and when you tell him something is not okay he won’t push it. You set healthy boundaries and he respects you. A narcissist will always push your limits.
Don’t get me wrong, I know narcissists can be women too. Narcissists come in all different forms, but good men are often just not given enough credit for how amazing they truly are. If you have someone in your life who does the things listed above let him know how important he is to you.